Rienna Nagel, 36, of Spruce grove, AB lost her life to domestic violence. She leaves behind five children. Rienna was a teammate with our friends at Oil City Derby. As you know Roller Derby is a community that fiercely protects their own and comes together in times of need. If you can help, every little bit counts. It is with heavy hearts that we share our condolences, our thoughts and prayers are with her family and friends during this time of unimaginable grief and loss. Please follow the link below to donate.
“If we could reach out, and say to the world, ‘come be the village to help raise these kids. That’ll be her legacy’” their grandmother said, “That’s what we’d like to see.”
(Riennas Mother, Sheree Zielke.) See more of the story here http://globalnews.ca/news/1312955/she-was-a-dedicated-mom-dedicated-wife-mother-of-murdered-spruce-grove-woman/
Domestic abuse is often a gradual process, with the frequency of assaults and seriousness of the violence slowly escalating over time. Abusers often express deep and convincing remorse with promises to change, it can take years for women to admit to themselves that the violence is not going to stop and the relationship they are in is unhealthy and cannot be saved.
In the meantime, the long-term effects of being abused can do little to convince women they are worthy of better so that they can find the courage to leave, or can manage on their own.
Violence against women happens in all cultures and religions, in all ethnic and racial communities, at every age, and in every income group.
- If someone is in immediate danger, call 911 or the emergency number in your community.
- Put her safety first. Never talk to anyone about abuse in front of their suspected abuser. Unless she specifically asks for it, never give her materials about domestic abuse or leave information through voice messages or emails that might be discovered by her abuser. However, abuse thrives in secrecy, so speak up if you can do so safely.
- If she wants to talk, listen. If she doesn’t, simply tell her she does not deserve to be harmed and that you are concerned for her safety. Ask her if there is anything you can do to help, but don’t offer to do anything that makes you uncomfortable or feels unsafe.
- If she decides to stay in the relationship, try not to judge her. Remember, leaving an abuser can be extremely dangerous. Sometimes, the most valuable thing you can offer a woman who is being abused is your respect.
- Learn about emergency services in your community, such as your local women’s shelter or sexual assault centre. Search on-line, or consult the front pages of your telephone directory.
Please help end violence against women!